Let me give you the step by step guide on how to ask a girl out on Facebook. This article isn’t a conniving guide to meet the most females on Facebook, it’s a guide to genuinely build a friendship and hopefully a relationship. This ISN’T a substitute for real, live communication. Nothing beats social interaction and having the courage to be human. Remember our parents didn’t have Facebook. For the females you can follow this guide if you want.
Step 1 ) Change your relationship status before you do anything. I advise only single people do this because I don’t support cheating on your current partner. So, guys/gals too I would change your Looking For to: Friends. It’s up to you but I suggest Friends. Don’t change it to a relationship or dating yet because it may seem to forward. We will change this later after you’ve built rapport and a trusting friendship.
Step 2 ) Put your best face forward and change your profile picture to something that puts you in a positive light. If you’re in shape maybe you can put a picture of you on the beach or possibly a regular photos that shows you are confident, educated, or a picture that highlights your best feature. Women love confidence…but not too much.
Step 3 ) IMPORTANT: Make sure it doesn’t say she’s “In A Relationship” or “Married”. Do a little common sense research. Secondly, have at least one or two mutual friends with the girl/guy that you’re interested in. Seriously, this is key to understanding human interaction. Most people will accept you. Why would anyone talk to someone else online if there isn’t a connection or bond between a mutual contact? If you do you’re opening yourself up to circumstances you can not control.
Also don’t create a fake profile!!! If you’re lying off the bat then you’ve lost all credibility from the start and eventually you will get caught. What if she actually likes you and wants to meet at Starbucks? You finally meet her and then you’re nothing like your profile description. Your mouth will get you in trouble faster than your looks. So, have mutual friends with your real profile.
Step 4 ) The pick up line. Once you friended her, put in the message
“Do I know you from somewhere?” or “I thought I recognized you. I’m (your name).” Keep it simple. Don’t bombard her with messages even if she hasn’t accepted a few days later. Some people check their Facebook once a week.
Step 5 ) Once she accepts you, or even before notate her likes on Facebook when it comes to entertainment, movies, books, etc. If you have some of these commonalities then remember them. Don’t be disingenuous with this category because most people have at least a handful of things in common. Parlay this treasure of information into something you can use.
Step 6 ) Don’t be an A-hole on your wall. Again, be yourself without going overboard with insulting, degrading, or gross comments on your wall because it can be considered a turnoff. Remember it will show up on her daily newsfeeds when she logs in. If she doesn’t like you for yourself then move on; she’s not the one.
Step 7 ) Be careful. Remember when you friend people and write comments on other people’s walls it will show your activity so make sure you have your privacy settings in tact or stick to one girl/guy because talking to multiple people will create multiple “mutual connections” and then she will be able to see that you made a comment on “Linda’s wall”.
Step 8 ) Don’t initialize your first communications with the chat feature. So creepy! Like a photo or two of hers. Occasionally write a nice comment that is sincere and from the heart. Women love attention even when the motive is misguided they absolutely love it. Girls, you can compliment a guy on his car or state “What gym do you go to?” Stroke his ego will benefit you. Males are superficial by nature and women typically look for a deeper connection. It’s fact. Guys continue to keep the conversation going over the course of a few week or months. Also, save your sarcastic college jokes and comments for later because she might not understand. Remember, she may be miles away so you can’t use Facebook as a fast-track relationship builder. Obviously she didn’t know you from Adam, so take it as a compliment that you’re speaking to a pretty lady.
Step 9 ) The time-frame is entirely your call but now is a pivotal moment. So, change your relationship status to Looking For: Dating. You could put a relationship if you feel confident but I suggest Dating. When you change your relationship status it will show up in her news feeds. So, change it and let that be the last communication for a day or two so that’s the first thing she sees on your wall. This is called bait. You’re throwing it out there. Hopefully she will comment. Once you’ve chatted and built a solid foundation with her you will be able to talk about more personal matters. I’ve provided the same picture as above.
Step 10 ) Whether she comments or not use your time on Facebook to ask her in her Inbox, or Her Wall, “What are you doing this weekend?”, “I’m going to the (concert she likes, movie genre she likes, book signing) tomorrow.” or “We should meet up sometime.” Sound confident. If she rejects you say “Maybe another time.” If she continues to reject your advancements then take a hint and find another girl; there are plenty good ones in the sea.
This is the best shot you have on Facebook. It’s still considered unorthodox to find someone online but we are increasingly becoming connected so this has gained popularity. I think the lesson to be learned is be yourself and remember the ball is in your court if you’re respectfully confident. If not, she will find another guy who is.
Let me give you the step by step guide on how to ask a girl out on Facebook. This article isn’t a conniving guide to meet the most females on Facebook, it’s a guide to genuinely build a friendship and hopefully a relationship. This ISN’T a substitute for real, live communication. Nothing beats social interaction […]